Q. Dear Dating Advice Girl,
In desperate need of advice. I was in a 2 yr long distance relationship that just ended. I am so brokenhearted, disappointed for not being able to move where he lives, since he expressed that from the beginning. This is the first time in my life that I feel I don’t want to go on. He introduced me to the Christian faith. And I grew to love him with all my might even when he doesn’t believe in falling in love . How can I let him go since is clear he is not the man I thought would end the rest of my life with?
A. There’s no easy answer for this one honestly. It’s always difficult when a new relationship ends unexpectedly, especially if you were making plans for the future, but time heals all wounds. Take some time to mourn the loss. Let yourself be angry or sad, just be cautious not to get stuck in the ‘mourning phase’ too long.
While you’re taking time to heal, surround yourself with friends and family. You have a new faith-based community! They will be a huge source of support.
Take this opportunity to reevaluate and focus on how you can generate more happiness in your life. What are your goals and dreams? Is there anything that you’ve always wanted to learn/do/accomplish? This could be the perfect time to tap into what will make you happy and what will feed your soul. Accomplishing new things is a great way to rebuild confidence.
This is a great time to look inward. Healing from your breakup will take time but being around positivity and support and crossing things off of your ‘dream To-Do list’ will help to speed up the process.
Good luck and hang in there!
Erin Tillman ‘The Dating Advice Girl’